After the birth of second child, first gets jealous. Any advise on how to reduce this jealousy?

After birth of second male child, the first child (also male child) seems to have gone cranky. He cries quite often without any reason.After the birth of second child, first gets jealous. Any advise on how to reduce this jealousy?
What is important to consider is, how old is the oldest child? If he is under 4, he is very much still a baby himself. He needs to be rocked, held and cuddled, and by all rights should still be breastfeeding. In fact, if babies are breastfed-only up to a year and a half, it is almost impossible to become pregnant again during this time. Even after that time, it is good to wait until the first child is somewhat independent. This occurs at a different rate for different kids.


I had my youngest son 5 years after the birth of his sister. She slept with us (we had a king-size bed), so what I did was put her on one side of me, and the new baby on the other at night. I also let her take a big part in taking care of the baby, so much so that he is now, at the age of 18, much closer to her than he is to me! She is happily married now, however, and is an emergency room nurse. She is very nurturing person! So let your older son have a bottle or pacifier if he still want them, and let him sleep on the other side of you. And let him help you care for the baby! Let him know how very important he is both to you and to his brother.After the birth of second child, first gets jealous. Any advise on how to reduce this jealousy?
When my second son was born, I gave my oldest son little chores to do when I was tending the baby. I got him to get blankets and diapers and little things like that. Also when company came over with gifts for the baby I would give my oldest son little gifts like dinky cars etc so that he wouldnt feel left out. Also try making special time with the older son, let dad get the baby ready for bed and you read a story with your son. Get dad to spend extra time too with your oldest son.
He feels that the new baby is getting to much attention. I would start referring to him as big brother, tell him all the things that big boys get to do that baby's can't do. Like help grocery shop, when you get near the item in the store, ask him to pick out the item. Like bread, of course he will pick the wrong one, so show him which one you like, that it taste better and is better for you.


Also gardening. Put up a little sign that says ';Johnny's (?) Garden, show him how to plant the seeds, when to water and how to fertilize. He would be so excited if he actually grew those little grape tomatoes. Sit him down with his own bowl of his home grown tomatoes.


Daycare, if you need a break, tell him that big boys get to go to school to make new friends and to learn new stuff.


Good Luck!!
There is nothing unusual about the first child getting jealous after the birth of the second child.This usually happens because after the birth of the second child the attention of the parents gets divided and the first child does not get the amount of attention he was getting before.In my opinion the jealousy can be reduced by paying the same amount of attention to the first child as he was getting in the past.Though this means hard work for the parents,i can see of no better solution.
Kids like a sense of ownership have him help with the baby also make sure you spend time with him
He feels that you have neglected him. Try to let him ';help'; with his new little brother and get him involved in things with the baby.
Go out of your way to pay extra attention to first child. Let him help take care of new baby. Set aside special time for just you and him everyday. Even if it's just for a short time. Try not to say to him ';I'm busy with the baby right now.'; He will only act out more. Good luck.
let him hold the new baby and play peek-a boo or whatever....let him interact with the baby and just supervise and also pay attention to him and reward him for doing good things and praise him often just let him know even though the baby is born that you still love him too and that it'll be fun to have a brother and that there is alot you can teach the baby ........
he feels neglected...your spending alot of time w/ the baby..i was a first-born. do acivities just w/ him and have him help w/ the baby so he feels grown-up
its important to remember the first child and try to put your selvfe in their position ...they are use to getting all of your affection and now not only are they not gettign all of it but likely its less than half. so pay extra attention to the first child as the infant doesnt know the difference. after a few months the first child will start to adjust but right at first its a big shock.


Also include the first chid in almost everything you do with the infant.


I have seen it where some first children actually can start to be mean to their new sibling.


Good luck
Just as you are adjusting to a new baby in the house so is your oldest. His state of mind is what is this thing and why is it in my house. He went from you and him to you, him and a new baby. You have to make sure that you give your oldest son the time he needs alone with you and only you. And the same thing with your husband. Daddy and son time. Quality time like you had before the arrival of your second child. Once he sees he still has his mommy things should calm down a little and he will soon start to accept his baby brother.
He is acting like a baby because he sees the little one getting all of his attention. I would suggest helping the oldest child feel special because he is the big brother. Give him jobs and make sure he knows that these are things that the little one can't do. He just needs to know he hasn't been replaced.
let the first born help you with the baby, like helping with bathing or feeding. and be sure to encourage him when hes doing right, you cant stop the feeling of jealousy but him/her being apart of the newborn may help.