I am in need of spiritual guidance. I feel that my marriage is in trouble. Can anyone advise me?

I have recently discovered that my husband is a member of a very questionable dating site. I am seeking only Godly, Biblical advise.I am in need of spiritual guidance. I feel that my marriage is in trouble. Can anyone advise me?
He may be entertaining fantasies, or he may be having affairs. Ask him which it is.


If you come to believe it is only fantasies, you will need counseling with your priest pastor or other religious leader to help him stop this. You will have to keep in communication with him about his temptation level and he will have to be honest with you about whether or not he is relapsing. You will have to make sure that you are meeting his sexual needs, as well, even though I'm sure you don't really feel like being sexual with him right now. Cutting him off sexually right now will only make the temptation level rise. And I'm not saying you have to indulge every sexual fantasy he has, wholesome marital intimacy should be enough for any man.


If he has been having affairs, you have a whole different set of problems, and you have to decide if you're going to end it or try to patch things up. If you have children, that will probably make a big difference in your decision. Just remember that if you divorce, he will have the children for part of the time and you will have no control over the envrionment they will be in. If you decide to make it work, counseling and continuing communication will be essential, just as I mentioned above. Marital intimacy should resume after you both have been tested for any and all STD's (as he may have already given you one) and after a reasonable time period has passed to give you time to not be so angry.


Good luck to you.I am in need of spiritual guidance. I feel that my marriage is in trouble. Can anyone advise me?
First thing have you seen his profile? If he has posted his real picture and his real information then you might have something to worry about and I would tell him that you know about it and you should both go to marriage counseling or since you are very spiritual go speak with a priest or minister (depending on your religeon).





If he has no pic or a fake pic and false information then you don't have to worry because most likely he was just curious and looking but not searching for himself. And in order to look fully at the pics and profiles and such you must create an account yourself , this is why I say don't worry if it is all false information on his profile.





Wishing you luck! God Bless
Well as one christian wife to another i would be devastated if i found that out about my husband.Do you attend a local church?I would suggest that you contact your pastor/pastors wife or another spiritual leader in your church that you trust and feel could help you(especially with scripture)in your situation and set up an appt.asap.Does your husband know that you found that?I really hope everything works out for you.I know that God tells us in the bible the only way we can divorce is if our spouse cheats so i am not going to be like the other worldly people and tell you to leave him because with the right counceling you can restore your marriage.I believe that.I hope everything works out.God bless.
Have you confronted him about it? Maybe there is a mistake, if not you need to talk to him about why he is on this site. I'm sorry, I know marriage is hard and sometimes men do strange things that aren't right. You need to follow your heart and instinct, it will be hard to trust him now. I would seek marriage counseling through a church if you want things to work out. .
1 Ask him why. I'm not justifying it, but what's lacking in your relationship ?


Ask him what the problem is with your relationship that he feels the need to look at others.


I'm not saying he was in the right in any way for looking, but what's missing from your relationship?


It's not your job to keep him on the straight and narrow, but are not doing something that is making him feel in need. If we let our spouse feel needy all the time, this opens them up to temptation. You need to be meeting each others needs. Try not to show how hurt you are by getting angry, use this as a moment for you both to grow in your marriage. I know this hurts, but it just may be the thing to help you both do some growing and learn to love each other better.


jp
God would not want you to be unhappy. he has, i'm assuming, already broken his promise to God, so you do not have to uphold your end of the bargain. once the contract is broken, it's broken.





go to church and heal your heart, but i personally wouldnt stay with someone that is dating other women. God does not want any of us to be abused and used.
What would Jesus do? He'd tell you to seek the advice of a trusted spiritual adviser - not a bunch of strangers on YA.





Personally, I would go on the computer, call up the site and confront him with it. No way would that be happening in my world without it bringing on the pain for him...
U will overcome. U definitely need to get to the bottom of it before u make any rash decisions. Much prayer is needed.





Talk to him. If he indeed your Boaz, u have nothing to worry about. Guys get curious, as mentioned above, and they do stupid things.





U need to make sure ur not running him away. Its all good to be holy and Godly but u need to make sure ur taking care of your man as well. That way he don't have to look elsewhere for enjoyment...
I'm an evangelical Christian and will answer.





You need to confront him on the issue, and get counselling asap.





If you go to church together, you may also want to have the pastor and elders pray over his struggle that he will have a changed heart.
It may be nothing at all, He probably took membership out of curiosity of the site
get rid of him